Archive for August, 2010

Tip ‘o the day to you!

August 9, 2010

Here’s what I learned today about couples….don’t argue with your partner about what time something happened, or if you were wearing black or grey the day that it happened. You will only get into a “yes I did, no you didn’t” rut! There are always two sides to every story, both are valid, and unless you have the conversation videotaped and you can literally “go to the tape”, you don’t stand a chance of being able to prove that you are right and your partner is wrong. There is in fact, no such thing. You were both right and this is the jumping off point to making up and repairing whatever damage happened. Validate your partner’s point of view. Understand not to get caught up in the nonsense, and by that I mean, arguing about the time, or the colour or what was said. It is a road going nowhere. Everyone remembers things the unique way they do. Instead, hear what your partner is saying and get to the issue underneath. It will be a hell of a lot more productive than arguing about something on the surface.
Happy Coupling!